With the backdrop of the national upheaval on the President’s scandal with the porn star “Stormy” Daniels, a friend posted the following question on his FaceBook page: “Thanks to recent news, my 11-year old asked me what a porn star is. How do I answer that question?” Although my own son has way passed eleven, I still took that question to heart. I suppose this is how I would have answered.
Son, I wish that you wouldn’t have to know what a porn star is until you’re much older. To be honest, I don’t even feel comfortable discussing this subject with you or anybody at age eleven. But, we’re living in radical times and facing radical matters. So, let’s talk about this. “Porn” is the abbreviation for pornography. The dictionary definition of that word is: The depiction of erotic behavior intended to cause sexual excitement. “Porn stars” refer to actors and actresses who perform in X-rated sex movies produced by sex industries. Christians do not endorse this kind of industry or the immoral behaviors. In fact, we strongly oppose them. I’d imagine it breaks Jesus’ heart for him to see how men and women created in the image of God exploited themselves and one another to make a buck over satisfying lusts of others. But, what’s more disturbing is the environment from which you have learned this word. The President of our country is currently under investigation for paying off a porn star to not talk about their sexual relationship during which time the President was already married to the First Lady and who was also pregnant. This scandal generated so much news that got broadcasted everywhere and that’s how you have learned this word “porn”. But, what you should take to heart is this. For one reason or another, there are some who chose to look the other way, and others who chose to defend our President for what he has done. Instead, this kind of behaviors should be called out. Being unfaithful to the wife is not what a good husband should do. If the man finds no restraint and repeatedly offends his wife by being unfaithful with different women, he has a character issue and I would question his fitness for the President of this country. Son, we think of marriage as a holy matrimony testified before God. I am not only the husband to your mother but also your father. I pray to God that I can live up to being a good husband and a good father. Part of being so is for me to remain faithful to my family, and that is how I show my love for your mother and for you.